I went to a dinner meeting with a work colleague a few weeks ago. It wasn’t really a meeting that I was looking forward to, as this particular person wasn’t demonstrating the right attitude and I felt the need to tell her this. Or more accurately, her behaviours didn’t really match her goals. I knew she had all the ability and talent to succeed but her attitude was stopping her own success.
Now normally we would terminate someone who didn’t demonstrate above average attitude, work ethic and performance. Our goal….no wait….our promise…. is to provide you with the very best staff and give you fabulous experiences.
The problem with this particular individual is I really liked her. I mean a lot. She was everything that you could ever want in an employee. She was smart, personable, fit and very knowledgeable in her field. But she had one problem that she couldn’t overcome. She expected everything to fall into place and have success without putting the work in. And that just doesn’t work.
In the end, that way of thinking it is a recipe for disaster. Why? Because the constant belief that things will ‘work out’ is flawed. You don’t get what you wish for, you get what you work for.
Ultimately, this person had to leave the company. A sad decision to be sure but the right one. There is only so much talking you can do. Sooner or later you need to see results. My own mother has been talking about losing 20 pounds for the past 10 years. Over the years she has in fact lost it only to put it back on. Why? because she just goes back to the same old habits that caused her to gain the 20 pounds in the first place. Old habit are hard to break.
And so I am here today to give you the hard truth. There is only ONE way to get fit, be healthy and have the body you want. And it’s hard work. Now I am not talking about gut wrenching, fall over, sweat pouring down your face workouts but rather life changing habits and behaviours that put you on the right track and keep you on the right track. And that IS hard work. If you have ever tried to change your habits you know how hard it is. Not just as it relates to exercise and nutrition but anything.
It’s not all bad news though. I’m sure you have heard the saying that it takes 21 days to create a new habit? Well, I don’t know how accurate that is but I do know that the body and mind are highly adaptable. If you can get past the ‘pain’ of not eating sugars and processed food your taste pallets will change and eventually crave a delicious piece of fruit or a nice salad instead of a chocolate bar or a large piece of white bread. It’s the same with exercising. If you can just get past the first few month of ‘pain’ associated with being on an exercise program your body will crave the exercise and protest sitting in front of the television for too long. It’s the consistency of nutrition and exercise that give you lasting results.
So as the story comes full circle, I want you to make sure that you set goals and have dreams. Without those you have no direction. But make sure your behaviours match your dreams because the results won’t happen on it’s own.